First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes conflicting schedules, changing priorities and a laundry list of other reasons including actual laundry that just seem to get in the way of having sex. What really happens between the sheets for couples who are 5, 10, 15, 20 or more years past the initial hot-and-heavy phase of a relationship? And it turns out, even though kids and life can get in the way, in many cases there is plenty to look forward to when it comes to sex in the long term. We chatted with 11 couples about how often they get down, how sex has changed and how to keep the romance alive.
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How Often Married Couples Have Sex (Per Week & By Age)
If you're married and not very happy with your sex life at the moment, it's normal to wonder about Here's what we know about how often married couples have sex, according to research and experts. But first an important note: "It's important to know that a normal sexual frequency is determined by what the couple agrees is mutually satisfying," sexologist Shamyra Howard, LCSW , tells mbg. And she adds: "Sexual frequency is not an indicator of sexual satisfaction.
What Marital Sex Statistics Can Reveal
That said, a study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a year, which equates to about once a week. This is less sex, by about nine per year, compared to a similar study done in the s. Interestingly, though, another study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science — which surveyed over 30, Americans over 40 years for three different projects — discovered that a once weekly frequency was the Goldilocks standard for happiness. Sexual intimacy is vital in any relationship, and not just for the sensual pleasure of it all. Sanam Hafeez , a NYC-based licensed clinical psychologist.
Here is what they say, as well as some additional tips to help you get your sex life on track! There is some question among sex therapists about what the true average is for couples in committed relationships. The answers can range from once a week to once a month! When couples stop having sex, their relationships become vulnerable to anger, detachment, infidelity and, ultimately, divorce.